Don’t Let Toxic Relationships Linger — Here’s How To Move On In Your 30s

Toxic relationships can do a lot of damage to your psyche, especially in your 30s. It’s not just the emotional and physical abuse that gets you; it’s the idea that someone thinks they have power over you and what happens in your life. If you’re one of those women who was stuck in one for too long, here are some tips on how to move on from that toxic relationship and find yourself again.


Move to a New Place/City

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After having trouble finding yourself and feeling down in the dumps, you can try moving to a new place. The best place to move to is a new city. However, sometimes it only takes a change of scenery for you to realize that there are other things out there besides your ex-partner or toxic relationship. 

You can also find like-minded people and make friends with them, which will help take your mind off what happened before. If you feel comfortable, you can share your story with them. Finally, choosing long distance moving will help you refresh your mind and help you find yourself again.

Forgive Yourself for Mistakes and Your Ex

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Don’t beat yourself up over the mistakes you made in your relationship with your ex. You likely did the best that you could at the time. You will learn from your mistakes and find a better, healthier relationship next time around. Forgiving yourself is the first step to moving on.

An essential part to healing from the toxic relationship and moving on is learning how to forgive your ex for their mistakes as well, whether you are still in contact with them or not. You can’t move forward if you continue to hold onto anger toward your former partner. Forgiveness does not mean you are okay with what happened; instead, it’s about freeing yourself from the pain.

Be Compassionate Toward Yourself

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It’s easy to be angry, upset, and disappointed in yourself after leaving a toxic relationship. However, it is essential not to beat yourself up too much about the past. Instead, take the time you need for introspection. Once you become aware of your feelings, thoughts, and behaviors, it will allow you to move on with more clarity than before.

Create a Space for Healing

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Make a space in your home just for you, where there are no reminders of your ex or relationship. You can even go as far as changing the way your room looks, keeping only certain pieces of furniture and throwing out anything that reminds you of your ex. It is all about making sure there are no triggers in place when it comes to recovery. Your healing space should have a door that locks so you feel safe.

This space should be a comfortable environment where you can relax your mind. By doing this, you can escape into daydreams or memories of better times with the person who used to mean everything to you. The key here again is all about creating a “safe” environment for your mind to roam freely.

Start Learning New Things

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Your ex might have made you feel like you couldn’t leave, but now that they are gone, take the time to learn something new. Make sure what you choose is attractive and has meaningful value. It could be anything from learning how to make your soap or growing an herb garden in your home. You will never know how you will enjoy a new hobby until you try it out.

To Sum It Up

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There is no better time to find yourself than after a toxic breakup in your 30s. After all, you’re more mature and independent at this age. But that doesn’t always mean things are easier. For example, you might have other issues in life that make it difficult for you to adequately take care of yourself.

But the good news is, you can also do more to find your inner strength and start taking care of yourself again. Remember, you always deserve the best! So be happy knowing that life gets better after a difficult phase, and you’ll learn how to move on from this relationship eventually.


How did you move on from a toxic relationship? Share with us in the comments!

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