Episode 51: Show Notes
While we have touched on this topic many times, today we dive into the important subject of making time for yourself. In this episode, we discuss why it’s so important to make time, not just for hobbies and friends, but to actually just be alone and have your own ‘me time’. While this can be about self-care, pampering, or, as one of our recent articles suggested, taking yourself on a date, it can also be about just taking a break or going for a kid-free walk around Target. Tuning in, you’ll hear about how, unlike men, we as women often lose our identities as we take on the roles of wife, mother, or career roles, and we often find ourselves compromising and not getting to do the things we enjoy. We discuss how we tend to wait for the right moment to prioritize ourselves but it never comes, how it’s so easy to postpone ‘me time’ if anyone else happens to need something from us, and how depletion tends to sneak up on us because of this. To discover what we’re modeling to our children when we take ‘me time’, why it’s okay to ask others to free us up in order to do this, and the benefits of disconnecting from our phones when we do, as well as many other helpful tips to help us all find balance and avoid burnout, tune in today!
Read The Full Article Here:
Mom To Mom: It’s Important To Take Yourself On A Date
Key Points From This Episode:
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An introduction to today’s topic: making time for yourself.
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The importance of learning to feel comfortable alone in public.
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Kelly’s love for traveling on her own and why she enjoys it so much.
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Megan’s love for going to Disneyland alone.
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The addictive nature of scheduling time for yourself.
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How we often compromise and don’t get to do the things we enjoy.
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How depletion sneaks up on us if we don’t prioritize ‘me time’.
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Thoughts on how we as women often lose our identities as we take on the roles of wife, mother, or career roles, and how men don’t seem to struggle as much.
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How we tend to wait for the right moment to prioritize ourselves but it never comes.
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How it’s so easy to postpone ‘me time’ if anyone else happens to need something of us.
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Kelly reflects on how sad it is that she never does a number of things that she really enjoys.
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Thoughts on how the grind of trying to just get to a point of contentment is exhausting.
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Why you need to be realistic with your ‘me time’.
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How our hosts’ mothers’ inabilities to take time for themselves affected them as children.
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What we’re modeling to our children when we take ‘me time’.
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The benefits of disconnecting from our phones when we take ‘me time’.
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What Kelly does when she feels depleted.
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The benefits of slowing down if you can’t take a break altogether.
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How Kelly would allow her kids to take mental health days but not herself.
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Why it’s okay to ask others to free you up for some ‘me time’.
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How if you don’t take care of yourself when you’re emotionally drained, it leads to burnout.
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Why you shouldn’t wait for others to do it for you but do it for yourself
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Let us know what you do to best enjoy your ‘me time’.
Tweetables:
“There’s something about putting a slot in your schedule that’s just for you, even if you don’t do anything that extraordinary with the time, it changes your perspective and how you prioritize your own needs.” — Kelly Castillo [0:04:19]
“Literally, I’m not kidding, guys, take a walk kid-free around Target. It will change your life! It will change your life. With no agenda, no list. Don’t bring a list. Don’t get your mayonnaise while you’re there. Literally, just go and see what’s new, and what’s on clearance, and have no agenda. You will come out of that recharged. It’s like church!” — Megan Block [0:16:15]
“You’re better for your people when you have worked on yourself a little and filled your own cup a little bit.” — Megan Block [0:27:51]
“You making sure that they see you nurture your own personal life and your own interests and your own identity outside of being just their mom, is so important because they’ll carry that the rest of their life and it will shape how they are as a parent.” — Kelly Castillo [0:29:32]
“If you don’t say no to people’s demands of you and take that time, eventually, your body will say no for you. You will be physically sick if you don’t take care of yourself when you’re emotionally drained.” — Kelly Castillo [0:46:07]
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