Episode 53: Show Notes
Grief is a part of life. We’ve experienced it, you’ve experienced it, and no matter how hard you may try to keep your children sheltered from it, they will experience it too. From something as minor as the death of a pet fish to something as traumatic as the death of a friend, there is a wide range of emotions that your children may experience after a loss. As parents or caregivers, it is so important to be able to hold space for your children’s grief, which can be a major challenge when you are experiencing grief at the same time. In this episode, we share some of the approaches that have been most helpful for us when walking alongside our children during their journeys with loss and grief. Every individual is unique, so there is no one-size-fits-all approach, but we hope that you take away some valuable insights from this episode for dealing with grief-stricken times.
Read The Full Article Here:
Mom To Mom: How To Help Your Child Through Grief
Key Points From This Episode:
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The shocking number of mass shootings that have taken place this year in the US.
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Examples of losses that can cause major grief for children.
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The wide range of emotions that children may experience after a loss.
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Books as a tool for dealing with a loss and the emotions attached to it.
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Value in seeking external support for your children when they are dealing with a loss.
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Losses that Kelly’s children have experienced, and how she approached talking to them about it.
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Some of our earliest memories relating to loss.
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Benefits of getting back into a routine as quickly as possible after a loss.
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The process that Megan went through after losing her mom.
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How dealing with loss can affect your relationships with other people.
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Why it is so important for teenagers to talk about their grief (if not to you, then to someone else).
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Examples of how the way you handle your grief in front of your children can impact them.
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What to say and what not to say to your children when they have experienced a loss.
Tweetables:
“In the beginning stages, when [grief is] the freshest is the time when you need to be just really focused on yourself. That’s nearly impossible when you have kids at home who are also grieving.” — Kelly Castillo [0:02:40]
“There’s a lot that goes into grief and processing loss that doesn’t necessarily look like grief in a traditional sense. It takes a big bandwidth to be able to walk your kids through those big feelings, and all those questions and big philosophical issues.” — Kelly Castillo [0:06:53]
“When everyone is mutually grieving the same person, it’s really hard to feel like you have a space where you’re being heard.” — Megan Block [0:10:53]
“Grief is grief is grief. You need to treat grief with your child as the same amount of importance no matter what the subject is.” — Megan Block [0:21:09]
“Nobody likes feeling the hard feelings. That’s what the life experience is. That’s what we all signed up for on this planet. We all feel big, hard feelings, and that’s how we grow, that’s how we learn about ourselves. It sucks in the moment but there is no way around it.” — Kelly Castillo [0:44:35]
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