Episode 60: Show Notes
Choosing to end a toxic relationship might be the best thing for you, but that certainly doesn’t mean that it’s easy! It can even be tricky to determine whether or not your relationship is toxic in the first place, since everyone has different criteria for what is healthy and what works for them. In today’s episode, we offer some perspective from our personal experiences and share some advice for recovering from an unhealthy relationship once you’ve made the decision to end it. We highlight the importance of acceptance, self-forgiveness, and patience and the benefits of seeking professional support as you navigate this difficult journey. We also take a look at some of the signs that your relationship is unhealthy and when you might have to accept that your own behavior is toxic, plus we point out some free mental health resources that are available to you. Ultimately, healing from a toxic relationship isn’t about following a set of predetermined steps, but we hope that this episode will help you equip yourself with the tools you need to make the tough but rewarding journey to recovery!
Read The Full Article Here:
How To Heal From A Toxic Relationship In 5 Steps
Key Points From This Episode:
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Why the topic of toxic relationships is somewhat subjective, depending on your thresholds.
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Three criteria for determining whether or not a relationship is toxic for you: feelings, needs, and boundaries.
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Parts of our relationships that others might perceive as toxic, but feel healthy to us.
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Why being in a toxic relationship with someone doesn’t mean that person is toxic.
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A reminder that, while relationships are hard work, you shouldn’t have to force them to work!
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The first step in toxic relationship recovery: accepting that the relationship is toxic.
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Why it’s important to take time to reflect, learn from your mistakes, and then forgive yourself.
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Some of the difficult emotions you might feel after deciding to end the relationship.
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How you might benefit from seeking professional guidance or support.
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Indicators of a toxic relationship, including emotional invalidation or gaslighting.
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Some of the free or cost-effective mental health resources available to you.
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A look at why you might have to accept that your own behavior is toxic.
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How making a gratitude list helps Kelly when she’s having a bad day.
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The important role that patience plays in recovering from toxic relationships.
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Why you are the only person who gets to decide what is healthy or toxic for you.
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Share your stories of how you healed from a toxic relationship on our Facebook group!
Tweetables:
“[When defining] if a relationship is toxic for you—because it is such an individual thing—it’s going to come down to if you feel like your feelings were validated in the relationship, if you feel like your needs were met in the relationship, and your boundaries were not crossed.” — Kelly Castillo [0:09:08]
“The first step to recovering from a toxic relationship is accepting that the relationship is toxic for you and making that decision to make changes in your life. That’s probably the hardest step for most people.” — Kelly Castillo [0:20:45]
“If you do the hard, dirty work and figure out who you are and get through those blocks that you know are there instead of just gravitating to different types of people or the same type of person, [you’ll] be able to find those core relationships that are there for the long haul.” — Megan Block [0:29:10]
“We’re so in our own heads that we don’t even realize that we’re harming others by how we’re communicating. Sometimes, we don’t realize we’re the toxic person.” — Megan Block [0:35:45]
“No one’s perfect. We all go through tough stuff, but we all deserve happiness. We all deserve to be treated with respect.” — Megan Block [0:41:41]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
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She’s A Full On Monet on YouTube
She’s A Full On Monet Discussion Board Facebook Group
