40+ Ladies, You Can Still Jumpstart Your “O” Game With These Sex Toys

Bedroom bummers caused by fluctuating hormone levels aren’t a conversation many of us would like to have with our closest gal pals, let alone our partners. Women over 40 may experience libido dips, vaginal dryness, and other sexual concerns as part of the menopausal package. If you’re currently in the midst of a dry spell, you’re not alone. In fact, 38% to 63% of women have experienced female sexual dysfunction — but sex toys can help.

The good news is that you can jumpstart your libido with a fun fix! Vibrators that are used internally can boost blood flow to your pelvis, increasing vaginal moisture for a pleasurable, non-painful sexual encounter.

If you’re considering buying a B.O.B. (battery-operated boyfriend) to recharge your sex life, here is our list of the best sex toys for 40+ women.

Le Wand Petite Massager

This small, rechargeable, and aesthetically pleasing personal wand is a great sex toy for women looking to dip their toes into the vibration pool. While it’s petite, it still packs a punch. Its body-safe silicone wand is also small and portable so it’s easy to take on the go! With 10 different speeds and an hour of playtime before having to be recharged, you’re guaranteed to level-up your solo sessions.

SHOP – $134.99

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Je Joue Mimi Soft

This pretty little clitoral vibrator uses deep rumbling action to deeply stimulate your most intimate areas. With five speeds and seven vibration patterns, you can control your orgasm over and over again. The squishy, soft tip is comfortable on sensitive skin, and the ergonomic design snugly sits in your palm for additional comfort.

SHOP – $92.89


This innovative sex toy is like your smartphone – it has tons of functions you’d never thought you’d ever need. For some women, a traditional vibrator may be too intense or even a tad painful. The Womanizer gently yet effectively stimulates your clitoris with six different levels of pressure waves. This personal toy will elevate your satisfaction in ways you didn’t even know existed.

SHOP – $119.99

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Lovely Rose Sucking Tongue Vibrator

Love oral? This sucking tongue vibrator from Lovely Rose is a sleek silicone tongue that never gets tired. Mimicking the feeling of a tongue in all of the right places, this waterproof vibrator is great for both bed and bath-time play. With additional sensual sucking action, this toy really goes the distance.

SHOP – $27.58

Lelo Luna Beads

For women over 40, it’s critical to maintain your vaginal muscles. These weighted vaginal beads will make you stronger in no time. Vibrating to your body’s unique movements, these rechargeable beads are great for strengthening your kegels and also for foreplay.

SHOP – $59

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Crystal Heart of Glass Dildo

While this gorgeous glass dildo may look like living room décor, it’s perfect for your pleasure. We understand that sex toy novices may be wary of glass wands at first, but they’re actually incredibly easy and comfy to insert with lube. To enhance your stimulation, stick this baby in the fridge or run it under warm water. You can also use it for nipple or backdoor play.

SHOP – $39.99

Bullet Vibrator

Small yet seductive, bullet vibrators are great for on-the-go orgasms. This tiny pleasure powerhouse has 4.5 stars on LoveHoney and hundreds of reviews – so if you’re looking for something tried and true, this is it!

SHOP – $16.99

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Intimate Lubricant

Lube is a must-have for any sex toy. We recommend this natural, hormone-free, paraben-free, and fragrance-free lube that never burns or causes yeast infections. The water-based gel feels great on your skin and helps with silky smooth penetration.

SHOP – $18.95

Of course, if you want to browse through a myriad of toys to find something that’ll heighten your O game, you can check out all the delicious sex toy websites out there! Some we’d recommend are Adam & Eve, LoveHoney, and Luvvsi – a UK based sex toys store.


Have you tried any of these? What’s worked for you? Let us know below!

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